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Mindful Sex: Love Drugs

By Jessica Graham She was a sexy soft butch. She opened doors for me and made out like she was a contender for Best Kisser of the Year. From the moment I saw her, surrounded by admirers, in a badly-lit, smoky bar I was hooked. After a few weeks of her award winning kisses and cunniligus and I was obsessed …

Mindfulness Meditation Helps Improve The Quality Of Sleep

By Kathleen Lees for Science World Report Meditation can certainly help you relax. Yet did you know it can also help you fall and stay asleep? Researchers at the University of Southern California found that mindfulness medication improved the quality of sleep for older adults. Furthermore, findings showed that regular meditation could even prevent cognitive decline for many older adults. …

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Mindful Sex: Everything and Nothing

by Jessica Graham I had sex for the first time because there was a Me I wanted to be. I wanted to be a Me who had “been there, done that.” I wanted to be a  Me who could utter a resounding “No!” when accused of virginity. I wanted to be a Me who was no longer that scared kid …

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The Pause

by Jessica Graham How many times have you reacted in the same old way to your partner, resulting in a few hours of distance instead of solution and connection? How many times have you responded with defensiveness at work, leading to more tension about the project instead of less? How many times have you made the decision not to have …

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Getting the Commitment You Deserve

By Jessica Graham I’m at the age where everyone around me is getting married and having kids. Watching this can be very hard for those who want to get married but have not yet met a life-partner or are with someone who isn’t ready for that kind of commitment. For example, I was recently talking to a friend of mine …

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Eat Less Chocolate, Enjoy It More

by Jessica Graham The first time I thought of chocolate as a drug was a few years ago. I was having a day that was heavy with sadness. I had been moving through tender achy stirrings in my chest and teary interactions with my partner. It was late afternoon and the melancholy was not letting up. I’m good at being …

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Authentic Satisfaction

by Jessica Graham Last week my rib popped out. If you’ve ever experienced this, you know that it’s rather painful. It gives you a great opportunity to work with physical pain in your meditation practice and keeps your chiropractor fed. After a day of having a very easy to focus on spot in my meditation, I went to see my …

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Six Tips For Relaxing Well

by Jessica Graham I have a long history of not being relaxed. I was one of those little kids with knots in her shoulders and chewed down nails. In my teens my only real relaxation involved copious amounts of drugs and alcohol. When I was in my early 20’s I started getting gray hair and waking up with little bits …

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Mindful Sex: The Threesome

by Jessica Graham My first threesome involved a lot of Captain Morgan’s Spiced Rum and a mattress on the floor. It was fun, sloppy, and we all had a good time. After that my triad sexual experiences were all heavily supported by the use of alcohol. Sometimes they were the result of wanting to get physical with someone other than …

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Surviving the Holidays Mindfully

by Jessica Graham It seems like we all make a cultural agreement to go a little bit crazy during the holidays. Braving the shopping malls (and parking structures!) to buy gifts on the credit cards we swore off using, binging on whatever it is we are going to resolve not to eat in the new year, letting go of exercising, …

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Dying with Dad, Part 7

by Jessica Graham One of the perks of meditation is that it instills compassion in the practitioner. True compassion comes from a place free of expectation, need, or neuroses. It isn’t personal in the sense that I once thought. Compassion comes from a very expanded perspective; it’s not limited to Me and the story of what it means to be …

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Terror On The Cushion

by Jessica Graham When we talk about meditation, it’s often in the context of relaxation and stress relief. These have certainly been a wonderful benefit of my own practice. There is, however, another word that also comes to mind when I look back over my spiritual development: Terror. Blood-chilling, knee-shaking, “Oh God, no!”-saying, terror. For many of us on the …

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Mindful Sex: Feelin’ It

  By Jessica Graham I’ve always been a very sexual person. I’m the one who finds a way to work sex into pretty much any conversation. I like great sex scenes in movies, erotic photography and graphic novels, songs with sexual lyrics, and occasionally a little porn. My sex life has always been very important to me, but for most …