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Good Night Moon

By Jessica Graham “There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally.” ― Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom I spent this past weekend meditating at Blue Heron Ranch in Ojai, CA. Enrico and Nadia Natali bought this beautiful piece of land in 1980 and over the decades …

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The Pause

by Jessica Graham How many times have you reacted in the same old way to your partner, resulting in a few hours of distance instead of solution and connection? How many times have you responded with defensiveness at work, leading to more tension about the project instead of less? How many times have you made the decision not to have …

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Authentic Satisfaction

by Jessica Graham Last week my rib popped out. If you’ve ever experienced this, you know that it’s rather painful. It gives you a great opportunity to work with physical pain in your meditation practice and keeps your chiropractor fed. After a day of having a very easy to focus on spot in my meditation, I went to see my …

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Mindful Sex: The Threesome

by Jessica Graham My first threesome involved a lot of Captain Morgan’s Spiced Rum and a mattress on the floor. It was fun, sloppy, and we all had a good time. After that my triad sexual experiences were all heavily supported by the use of alcohol. Sometimes they were the result of wanting to get physical with someone other than …

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Dying with Dad, Part 7

by Jessica Graham One of the perks of meditation is that it instills compassion in the practitioner. True compassion comes from a place free of expectation, need, or neuroses. It isn’t personal in the sense that I once thought. Compassion comes from a very expanded perspective; it’s not limited to Me and the story of what it means to be …

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Terror On The Cushion

by Jessica Graham When we talk about meditation, it’s often in the context of relaxation and stress relief. These have certainly been a wonderful benefit of my own practice. There is, however, another word that also comes to mind when I look back over my spiritual development: Terror. Blood-chilling, knee-shaking, “Oh God, no!”-saying, terror. For many of us on the …