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Mindful Sex: How To Feel Clean While Being Dirty

by Jessica Graham Let me start with this. I like porn. I do not believe that someone who is spiritual can’t also enjoy porn. Of course all porn is not created equal. It’s important to know where your porn comes from and how it is made. There is no black and white in life, it’s all gray area. It’s our …

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Will Awakening Ruin My Art?

by Jessica Graham Awakening will destroy your life. Whatever you think is yours to claim, will fall away. The self that has been driving you to do better, push harder, and succeed more grandly than the last time, will burn away to a sprinkling of ashes. But from that smokey rubble will arise a new understanding of success. A success …

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Mindful Awakening: The Cost Is Just Everything

by Jessica Graham There are certain defining moments throughout spiritual development. When you first recognize that you are not your thoughts. When you experience physical or emotional pain break up into flowing sensations that are no longer “bad,” therefore revolutionizing your relationship with pain. When you fully grasp the truth that suffering is optional. When you come to know oneness—not …

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Power of Positive Thinking Skews Mindfulness Studies

By Anna Nowogrodzki for Scientific American There’s a little too much wishful thinking about mindfulness, and it is skewing how researchers report their studies of the technique. Researchers at McGill University in Montreal, Canada, analyzed 124 published trials of mindfulness as a mental-health treatment, and found that scientists reported positive findings 60% more often than is statistically likely. The team …

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Could Meditation Really Help Slow The Aging Process?

By James Kingsland for The Guardian It may seem unlikely, but a small and growing body of evidence suggests that regular meditation can indeed slow aging, at least at a cellular level. Do people who meditate age more slowly? It seems unlikely on the face of it. How could sitting immobile with one’s eyes closed, perhaps focusing on the breath, …

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Mindful Sex: Eyes Wide Open

by Jessica Graham Before mindful sex I was one of the many who have no interest (aka intense dread) in looking into my partner’s eyes while we had sex. The last thing I wanted to do was connect in such a intimate and vulnerable way with my partners. But meditation has a way of rearranging who we are and how …

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Overcoming Cravings With Mindfulness

by Jessica Graham (Don’t have the attention span to read this article? You may want to start meditating as it’s been shown to improve concentration. Telling me to buzz off? Alright, watch this video for a very truncated version. And then come back and read the article.) I love popcorn. I have a special pot I use to cook up …

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How Meditation Changes the Brain and Body

By Gretchen Reynolds for The NY Times Blog The benefits of mindfulness meditation, increasingly popular in recent years, are supposed to be many: reduced stress and risk for various diseases, improved well-being, a rewired brain. But the experimental bases to support these claims have been few. Supporters of the practice have relied on very small samples of unrepresentative subjects, like …

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Mindful Listening For Better Relationships

By Jessica Graham At the beginning of my meditation classes we have a period of introductions and check ins. It’s a time to say, “Hello,” to the group and share anything going on with your practice or in your life. It can become quite emotional and intimate as people open up about what’s really going on. There is a deep …

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Mindful Sex: Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby

By Jessica Graham Do you talk about sex? Do you tell your partners what turns you on or turns you off? I can’t tell you how many people I have come across who are not enjoying sex, purely because they won’t speak up and ask for what they want. Communication is a key ingredient for a hot, healthy, and mindful …

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Meditate Now

By Jessica Graham You have heard that meditation is good for you. You’ve read a few articles about it or even tried a guided meditation on YouTube. You just know that meditation could help you. It might ease that anxious swirl in the pit of your stomach, sharpen your focus during crunch time at work, or maybe (fingers crossed) improve …

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Mindfulness Vs. Writer’s Block

By Jessica Graham Today I did the following: Yelled “I hate this! I hate this! I hate this!” like a 14 year old who’s mom told her she couldn’t go to a highschool party. Did a handstand in my office while saying a silent prayer along the lines of “This better work.” Covered my desk with snotty tissues. I do …

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Good Night Moon

By Jessica Graham “There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally.” ― Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom I spent this past weekend meditating at Blue Heron Ranch in Ojai, CA. Enrico and Nadia Natali bought this beautiful piece of land in 1980 and over the decades …