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The Long Road to Financial Awakening

Getting Mindful with Money by Jessica Graham his might come as a shocking disappointment to some, but waking up doesn’t mean you and your life become magically perfect. How many enlightened masters have also been alcoholics, sexual inappropriate with students, or downright abusive? Clearly, if spiritual awakening made you a perfect person, this wouldn’t be the case. There are different …

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Mindful Sex: How To Feel Clean While Being Dirty

by Jessica Graham Let me start with this. I like porn. I do not believe that someone who is spiritual can’t also enjoy porn. Of course all porn is not created equal. It’s important to know where your porn comes from and how it is made. There is no black and white in life, it’s all gray area. It’s our …

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Will Awakening Ruin My Art?

by Jessica Graham Awakening will destroy your life. Whatever you think is yours to claim, will fall away. The self that has been driving you to do better, push harder, and succeed more grandly than the last time, will burn away to a sprinkling of ashes. But from that smokey rubble will arise a new understanding of success. A success …

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Mindful Awakening: The Cost Is Just Everything

by Jessica Graham There are certain defining moments throughout spiritual development. When you first recognize that you are not your thoughts. When you experience physical or emotional pain break up into flowing sensations that are no longer “bad,” therefore revolutionizing your relationship with pain. When you fully grasp the truth that suffering is optional. When you come to know oneness—not …

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Mindful Sex: Eyes Wide Open

by Jessica Graham Before mindful sex I was one of the many who have no interest (aka intense dread) in looking into my partner’s eyes while we had sex. The last thing I wanted to do was connect in such a intimate and vulnerable way with my partners. But meditation has a way of rearranging who we are and how …

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Overcoming Cravings With Mindfulness

by Jessica Graham (Watch this video for a very truncated version of the practice described here. And then come back and read the article.) I love popcorn. I have a special pot I use to cook up huge amounts of it, and a special bowl I like to eat it out of. I cook it in coconut oil and then …

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Mindful Listening For Better Relationships

by Jessica Graham At the beginning of my meditation classes we have a period of introductions and check ins. It’s a time to say, “Hello,” to the group and share anything going on with your practice or in your life. It can become quite emotional and intimate as people open up about what’s really going on. There is a deep …

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Mindful Sex: Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby

By Jessica Graham Do you talk about sex? Do you tell your partners what turns you on or turns you off? I can’t tell you how many people I have come across who are not enjoying sex, purely because they won’t speak up and ask for what they want. Communication is a key ingredient for a hot, healthy, and mindful …

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Meditate Now

by Jessica Graham You have heard that meditation is good for you. You’ve read a few articles about it or even tried a guided meditation on YouTube. You just know that meditation could help you. It might ease that anxious swirl in the pit of your stomach, sharpen your focus during crunch time at work, or maybe (fingers crossed) improve …

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Mindfulness Vs. Writer’s Block

by Jessica Graham Today I did the following: Yelled “I hate this! I hate this! I hate this!” like a 14 year old who’s mom told her she couldn’t go to a highschool party. Did a handstand in my office while saying a silent prayer along the lines of “This better work.” Covered my desk with snotty tissues. I do …

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Good Night Moon

By Jessica Graham “There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally.” ― Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom I spent this past weekend meditating at Blue Heron Ranch in Ojai, CA. Enrico and Nadia Natali bought this beautiful piece of land in 1980 and over the decades …

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Mindful Sex: Love Drugs

By Jessica Graham She was a sexy soft butch. She opened doors for me and made out like she was a contender for Best Kisser of the Year. From the moment I saw her, surrounded by admirers, in a badly-lit, smoky bar I was hooked. After a few weeks of her award winning kisses and cunniligus and I was obsessed …

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Mindful Sex: Everything and Nothing

by Jessica Graham I had sex for the first time because there was a Me I wanted to be. I wanted to be a Me who had “been there, done that.” I wanted to be a  Me who could utter a resounding “No!” when accused of virginity. I wanted to be a Me who was no longer that scared kid …