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Mindful Sex: Everything and Nothing

by Jessica Graham I had sex for the first time because there was a Me I wanted to be. I wanted to be a Me who had “been there, done ...


Are You a Mindful Geek?

by Michael W. Taft Are you interested in learning mindfulness meditation, but put off by the religious and mythological mindset? Then my new book is for you. Called The Mindful Geek, it ...


The Pause

By Jessica Graham How many times have you reacted in the same old way to your partner, resulting in a few hours of distance instead of solution and connection? How ...

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Flow Machine: Hacking the Human Brain for Healing and Wellbeing

How one scientist is blending ancient philosophy with modern neuroscience to fight ...
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Escaping the Observer Trap

Are you feeling stuck in your practice? Did meditation lead to big, ...
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Undoing Distraction, Technology Edition

by Michael W. Taft Does anyone you know not have a problem ...

Take Your Body with You

by Michael W. Taft When I was 33 years old, I became ...
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Mindful Sex: Getting Off Without Checking Out

by Jessica Graham When I was fourteen I decided it was high ...

Listening to the Body

by Jessica Graham “In these bodies we will live. In these bodies ...

Five Easy Ways of Undoing Distraction

by Michael W. Taft If you cannot focus on one thing at ...

Broken Heart/Open Heart

By Jessica Graham   “Like someone is trying to slice my sternum ...

Losing Control

By Jessica Graham In mindfulness meditation we observe and explore our experience ...

Concentration and Flow

by Michael W. Taft Have you ever been so involved in doing ...

Deconstructing the Self

I remember as a teenager, feeling that the Monty Python joke “my ...

Dying With Dad

by Jessica Graham Part One My meditation practice has helped me with ...
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Downtime for the Stone Age Brain

by Michael W. Taft Recently, I found a meditation retreat center in ...

I’m Glad I Took the Red Pill

By Jessica Graham Pressure above the eyes and in the middle of ...

Concentration IV: Why Bother?

by Michael W. Taft In the last three articles, I wrote about ...

Concentration II – Learning to Listen

by Michael W. Taft You’re having complex feelings about the things that ...

Concentration: An Iterative Approach to Focusing the Mind

by Michael W. Taft Concentration is the eternal secret of every mortal ...

Multitasking Fail

by Michael W. Taft You’re working on a paper, and the kids ...

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The Healing Powers of Keeping a Journal, and 3 Ways to Stick With It

By Barbara Stepko for I got introduced to journaling when I was a kid. At first, I thought the idea was to keep a record of what I had done each day. But eventually—I’m still journaling all these years later—I came to understand that it allows me the time and space to explore what […]

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Mindfulness Meditation Mentors

                              Jessica Graham & Michael W. Taft — The Deconstructing Yourself team.   photo credit: a nice lady walking by the coffee shop      

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Want to Learn Meditation without Religion?

Help me make this book a reality at Indiegogo — Michael Taft   “Michael Taft is steeped in practice and deeply trained in multiple traditions. He is extremely articulate about subtle states of mind and important distinctions in meditation, for both beginners and long-time practitioners. He’s also very open, warm, and supportive – plus deeply wise.” ~ Rick […]

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The McMindfulness Craze: The Shadow Side of the Mindfulness Revolution

By Jeffrey Rubin for The Interdependence Project In case we had any doubt after watching Anderson Cooper on “60 Minutes,” mindfulness is the new yoga – and we are in the midst of a mindfulness revolution. It’s been embraced by celebrities, business leaders, politicians and athletes; and recommended by doctors, clergy, psychotherapists and prison wardens. […]

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How One Woman Used Meditation to Quit Smoking

By Jamie Zimmerman from abc NEWS Yale graduate student Michelle Morgan started smoking at age 12. When the 35-year-old wanted to quit she tried everything from cold turkey to medications, but nothing worked. Then Morgan saw a flyer for a research study on mindfulness-based smoking cessation. She qualified and enrolled. In weekly sessions Dr. Judson […]

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by Michael W. Taft This is an excerpt from Michael’s upcoming book The Mindful Geek If I had to choose just one thing to teach, one single practice to give you that would do the most to improve your life, it would be the practice of acceptance. Although it may seem like a paradox, acceptance is one […]

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Meditation Becoming More Popular Among Teens

By Dan Harris for abc NEWS One of the most surprising trends going among teenagers going into the New Year is, of all things, meditation. It’s due in large part to the growth of scientific research that suggests meditation can help teens to reduce stress, regulate emotions and boost grades. Meditation is now being taught […]

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Let It Be – Meditation

by Michael W. Taft   Your life is filled with too much business, too much hurry, too much stress. Just for a moment, let go of all that. There are too many machines vying for your attention with rings, beeps, blinks, flags, and badges. Just for a moment, turn them all off and put them […]

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Harvard study suggest mindfulness makes measurable changes in brain

By Sue McGreevey, MGH Communications Participating in an eight-week mindfulness meditation program appears to make measurable changes in brain regions associated with memory, sense of self, empathy, and stress. In a study that will appear in the Jan. 30 issue of Psychiatry Research: Neuroimaging, a team led by Harvard-affiliated researchers at Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH) […]

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Mindfulness Intervention Boosts Brain Activation For Healthy Pleasures

From MedicalXpress How can people who are dependent on prescription opioids reduce their cravings? Learn to enjoy other aspects of their lives. That’s the key finding in a new study published in the Journal of Behavioral Medicine by Eric L. Garland, associate professor at the University of Utah College of Social Work. Garland and colleagues […]

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12-Minute Meditation To Avoid Temptation

By Tom Jacobs for Business Insider New research finds brief mindfulness training can make that slice of pie, or inappropriate partner, less appealing. By now, you have probably read or heard about the benefits of mindfulness. So why haven’t you tried it? You may believe those advantages are too ephemeral (what does “inner peace” even […]

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Nondualism Book by Michael W. Taft Released

Deconstructing Yourself is pleased to announce the release of a new book by Michael W. Taft, entitled Nondualism: A Brief History of a Timeless Concept. From the Introduction: Nondualism is the philosophical and religious concept that all things are essentially one. It is called a philosophy of “identity” because it sees the entire universe, including […]

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Cognitive therapy, mindfulness may help with menopausal depression

By Janice Neumann for Reuters Psychotherapy and mindfulness techniques could help many women who experience depression during menopause, according to a review of existing research. Too few studies have looked at whether cognitive therapies are good alternatives for women who can’t or don’t want to use pharmaceutical treatments, the authors conclude, but the handful that did […]

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